When I learned that I could decide not to do something, it was very freeing and brought order to my life.
It's good to learn that we don't have to do it all. We don't have to say "Yes" to everything. We absolutely have a choice! We can choose what gets done today, what to never do, and what to put off to a later date. This applies to work, business, and home life.
When the decision is made, move forward and don't feel bad about it. You've make a decision, period. For me, it relieved me of undue pressure I was putting on myself.
Get into the practice of making a decision for you, and feel good about it. I found that whatever I decided to not do, was just fine NOT getting done when I first thought it should be done. And often when I put it off until later, it was a better time to do it and it got done quicker.
Before your to-do list seems overwhelming, remember, you can decide what to NOT do!
You can do all you want to do when you bring order to your mind. Releasing the clutter of an overfull to-do list is a giant step toward bringing order to your mind. With a new sense of clarity and order, you will then get everything done that you need to get done, when it needs to be done.
I just read some sentences that I’ve read many times before, but this time it caused me to pause. I am studying to get a deeper understanding of the Knowing-Doing Gap. The Knowing-Doing Gap is about why we continually do things that produce unwanted results when truly, we know better. The sentences I read are: “We really don’t need more information to do a better job. We have to start doing what we already know how to do.”
Often, when we don’t get our desired results we think, “I need to learn more, I need more education on the topic, I need to do more research.” When in reality, we know what to do, we don’t need to know more, we are just not applying what we already know. One example is going to conferences or company training programs. We go, take notes, learn, get all pumped up, then go home, put the notes on a shelf, stay inspired a few days and then go back to the usual behavior. We’ve just learned what to do to change results, to improve in some way yet it doesn’t last. It’s happened to me, many times. Why? It’s the mental programming, the habitual way of thinking and acting that keep us stuck. This habitual behavior is caused by paradigms. This article isn’t meant to be about paradigms. You can read more on paradigms here.
The answers we seek are within us. We just have to apply what we already know. It can be easy to think what we seek is outside of us. In reality, we have untapped, unlimited potential inside. We just need to reach down, access it, and exercise it.
Continuing my reading, the next sentence that I’ve read and repeated many times which stopped me is this quote by Thomas Edison, “If we all did the things we are really capable of doing, we would literally astonish ourselves.” If we did all that we are really capable of doing… If I did all that I am really capable of doing… Am I doing all that I am capable of doing? If I am honest, I must answer, “no.” I don’t believe many of us do all we are capable of doing, but that is not an excuse, that is not a way out. It doesn’t matter what anyone is or isn’t doing. All that matters to me is, what am I doing. All that matters for you is, what are you doing.
If our desire isn’t strong enough, if we don’t care enough about the results, then we won’t do all we’re capable of. The other required factor is to make a committed decision. A committed decision is absolutely necessary to stay with it and not be stopped in achieving your goal. I’ve written a previous article on that here.
The last company conference I went to was different for me though. Something I heard really hit home with me and it started me on my personal growth journey that continues today. That was in 2012 when I heard John Maxwell speak. He had just published his book, 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth. I bought the book and started to study it when I got home. My study led me to other personal growth experts which is how I came across Bob Proctor. It wasn’t long after when I had the opportunity to meet Bob at one of his live seminars, and there made the decision that I wanted to work with Bob and become one of his consultant’s.
I’ve heard Bob Proctor say many times, “…personal growth is a choice.” We can decide to grow or not. If we’re not growing, evolving and moving forward, we’re going backward. Nothing ever stays the same, not us as individuals, not the world, not situations or circumstances. Everything constantly changes. Bob also says, “We live in an ocean of motion.” Everything is always changing.
Choosing to grow and expand has been an incredible journey for me. And it can be for you too. Only good can come from it, as difficult as it may seem when you start. But when you put into action what you already know how to do, and do all you are capable of, you will embark on a journey that will amaze and “astonish” you. You will be so glad you did. You have no idea how much life can improve by putting into practice these concepts.
If you would like help getting started or need guidance with some direction, please reach out and let’s talk. I love helping people realize their hidden potential and growing into who they are meant to be. It is a journey I’m so grateful to be on and I’d love to help you on yours.
The two quotes I mentioned above, are from the manual that all my coaching clients receive when enrolling in Thinking Into Results with me. It’s a powerful process created by Bob Proctor and his partner, Sandy Gallagher for quick and permanent transformation. To learn more about this or my other coaching opportunities, contact me and let’s chat about what desires you have that you’d like to achieve.
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