“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or objects.” Albert Einstein
Some people mistakenly believe that having certain things will make them happy. Or, they may think that who they’re with or where they live will bring them happiness. While these things may bring joy and make you feel happy for a while, it’s not true happiness. It is fleeting and can easily disappear from your life.
To be truly happy is something that comes from inside. It’s not dependent on any external circumstances, as Einstein alludes above. When tying happiness to a goal, we discover something inside us that we didn’t know was there. Working towards a goal requires growth. As we grow, we discover the inner joy and true happiness that is within us. We find happiness in accomplishing what we desire.
I believe we are meant to be happy. Sure, life isn’t always easy, but we grow from our challenges. We overcome obstacles and find ourselves being more of who we are meant to be.
We weren’t put on this earth to live a life of misery and hardship. Our main purpose here is to be happy. When we are truly happy, we are in control of our thinking. That’s when we don’t let the opinions, doubts, and fears of others take root in our thoughts and influence us in any way. We find a freedom from constraints, from beliefs that hold us back. Much of the time, the beliefs we hold are not our own. They have been passed down to us from parents or grandparents, who were doing the best they knew how given their circumstances.
Realize that you are in complete control of the outcomes in your life. No matter where you are now, or what you have been through, life doesn’t have to be a struggle and you can create the life you want by making different choices. Being happy, no matter what, is a choice and is within your complete control.
Ralph Marston says, “Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you.”
Choose wisely for it is your life and your future that depends on it.
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Our daughter graduated this week with her master’s degree and it has me thinking about celebrating accomplishments. We, of course, celebrated with her, and I am reminded of all the steps she had to take, and the smaller achievements she completed in order to reach this goal of hers; all the study, classes, projects, tests, interviews, etc., all necessary to get her to this point.
On the journey to our goal, we sometimes forget to celebrate our little accomplishments. The small things are actually what get us to where we are going. They may not seem significant at the time, but without those small steps, you won’t get to your goal. It is important to recognize these steps and celebrate them. They are indicators of movement, taking action, taking the steps to reach your goal.
Anything you do that moves you towards your goal is worthy of being recognized. It’s rewarding to feel that sense of accomplishment. You’ve checked things off the to-do list and taken the action steps necessary! Yahoo! That’s a win for you. Claim it. You’ll want to remember that on days when you don’t get as much done. That’s OK too, you have to have a balance of work and fun.
Your goal, your direction in life, is very individual. Don’t compare what you are doing with what anyone else is doing. The tasks you do, your daily achievements, are unique to you and your situation. Recognize them and celebrate them.
One of the habits I’ve adopted is to jot down in a small notebook, tasks I’ve done each day. It serves two purposes. The first is, it gives me a concrete list of what I have done. I can see and am reminded of the steps I’ve taken that move me forward. Second, I can use it for a reference, if needed, to see when I did something in particular. Everything is briefly noted, so it only takes seconds to record a task.
Using this system helps me see what I am actually getting done, or not. When I look at the list and see several things I’ve worked on or completed, I feel good and know I’ve done a good job. That’s a celebration, a good feeling of accomplishment. If I only see a few small tasks done, I ask myself if I could have done more, I look at how the day went and why was it like that. I can identify whether or not there was something distracting me so I can correct the issue and be more productive the next day.
In the past, there were times when I thought I did more than I actually did and other times I wondered, what did I do today? Having a system in place, where I can really see the work I did that day, has helped me work smarter, be more productive and feel the movement as I work towards a goal. Each day I can celebrate, “I did it”, and feel that sense of accomplishment. I see the action steps I’m taking and know I’m on my way.
It felt wonderful watching our daughter receive her master’s, and as well, we recognized the small, seemingly little things she did to bring her to this place of celebration. Your goal or goals are also worth celebrating and it begins by recognizing and celebrating your small accomplishments daily.
Celebrating and enjoying the small accomplishments each day will motivate you to keep going, to do what it takes, to try harder, or do what seems difficult to do. Celebrating keeps it fun. You have to love where your goal is taking you. Enjoy the ride, and when you get to where you’re going you will enjoy the big celebration too!