The word paradigm is used often in the coaching field. “It’s your paradigm holding you back.” “You need a paradigm shift to change your results.” To give clients clarity, a good coach has to inform them what that means. Let’s dive into paradigms. I want to help you get a good understanding of what they are and the role they play in your life. Bob Proctor defines paradigms as, “a multitude of habits stored in your subconscious mind”. Essentially it is our programming and our habitual behavior. And most of our behavior is habitual. The subconscious mind is the store house for our habits, memories, conditioned beliefs and self-image. It is our emotional mind. It has to accept any idea you give it and it cannot tell the difference between real or imagined. This is why affirmations work. Get my Affirmations Handout from the home page of my website, www.darlenecurlee.com. We have been programmed Most of our behaviors, attitudes and responses were learned as babies and toddlers. Others we learned through our life experience. Paradigms can be generations old. Our parents passed to us their paradigms, and many of their paradigms were passed to them from their parents. Paradigms control our thinking, which controls the feelings and feelings control our behavior which in turn controls the results we see in our life. To get different results, start by changing your thinking and making a decision. If you have a bad habit that you would like to eliminate, you must replace it with a desirable habit to put in its place. You can never get rid of a bad habit. It creates a void and that void will be filled with something. If you don’t decide to replace it with a good habit that you want to create, you are likely to find another bad habit there. You must consciously decide you will replace this habit with a new one. Most of the time when we talk about habits, we mean a bad habit or negative behavior. But habits, just like paradigms, can also be good. If you have the habit of never being late anywhere, that’s a good habit, a positive paradigm. On the other hand, if you hit the snooze button every morning thinking you can sleep another ten minutes, then have to hurry to be on time, that’s also a paradigm. One that’s not so good. Take the habit of hitting the snooze button. To change that habit, it takes a decision that you are no longer going to do that and that you will get up when the alarm goes off. To create this new habit will take a committed decision. Think about the reward for creating this new habit. In this case you would no longer feel rushed in the morning, you’d be starting your day with a calmer mind. Keep focused on the desired result of the change. New Habit To make a new habit permanent, you need to do the new habit every day. You cannot miss a day, or you need start over. One study says that on average, it takes 66 days for the new behavior to become automatic. Even that can vary. It could be longer depending on the habit and how deeply ingrained it is in the subconscious mind. I recommend at least two months and see how it feels. If you have broken the old habit and replaced it and no longer have to be so deliberate about making the decision every day, then you are good to go. When you have conquered one habit then you can do another one. Never try to change too many at one time though. One or two at the most. Affirmations Create an affirmation for your new habit. Write out in present tense a statement affirming your new habit. For the example above it could be, “I’m so happy and grateful now that I get up as soon as my alarm goes off and I am relaxed and calm when I arrive at work.” You would not say, “I am grateful that I am not so rushed in the morning.” That won’t work. Anytime you put a not or a negative in there, the subconscious doesn’t get it. It would only hear that you rushed in the morning. So always use the positive opposite of the behavior you want to change. In this example you are telling your subconscious mind that this new behavior is already happening. You say, “now that…”. As previously stated, the subconscious must accept whatever you tell it. It does not know the difference between real or imagined. Always write affirmations in the present tense. Never use “I will” or “I am going to”. Always use “I am”. Using “I am” has you in the process. “I will”, or “I’m going to” are future statements – something for tomorrow. Repeat the affirmation throughout the day. Repetition is a must when changing a paradigm. Repeat it out loud. Put post it notes when you can see them. Record yourself and relisten to it, and say it in front of the mirror. You want to keep it in the front of your mind. This repetition will reprogram your subconscious to help you in achieving the new behavior that you desire. Look forward to new results the changed behavior will give you. That is so exciting and can be very freeing. Get rid of unwanted habits. Continue to change another when you have successfully changed one. You could potentially change six habits a year. Just imagine what that will do for you! In summary, the process to change a paradigm is:
Following these steps will give you the permanent change and improved results you want in your life. It starts with awareness. You must take an honest look at your current behaviors and really see what you’re doing that’s not serving you. When you can get honest about that, then you can begin the process of creating new paradigms that will serve you. Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay
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In order to get more of what you want in life, something has to change. Otherwise you’d already have it. To get through a change requires a decision first and then commitment. This process will take finding an awareness of what needs to change. It requires looking at where you are now, where do you really want to be and what habits are keeping you where you are.
I realize change can be difficult. We get comfortable where we are. It may not be ideal but it’s our comfort zone. This comfort zone has become habit. You’re there because of your habits and your habits will keep you stuck there as long as you let them. Fear of the unknown, not being sure how it will turn out, are common reasons that keep people where they are. You’ve settled for what you have even though you know life could be better. When you are looking at what you want, where you strive to be in life, rather than where you feel stuck, it makes getting there easier. If the word change has a negative connotation for you, adjust your perspective. Look at the good that can come from change. Normally when we desire change, it means an increase of some sort. The change will make life better. Focus your thought and your energies on that increase, the new result you want in your life. Let’s look at what is keeping you from the change you desire. Habits! Before a change can be made, you have to become aware of what needs to change. Look at your daily activities, at your thinking. All change must begin in your mind. Why do you do what you do? Is it a choice you’ve made or are you living from your programming? Many of our habits, including how we think, have been passed down to us. We do things the way our parents did, or think and act in a certain way because that’s what we were taught or what we picked up from the environment we were raised in. Looking at it with an open mind, questioning where the behavior came from so that you can recognize what needs to change, is what it takes to break free. It’s not necessary to understand or get to the root of why and analyze it, as much as it is to see the behavior that is keeping you there. Look at your behaviors or habits and ask yourself, if I were to change one habit, how would it improve my life? You always have to replace one habit with another habit. You can’t just remove a habit. That would create a void which would get filled with yet another behavior that may be as bad as the one you wanted to get rid of. Find a positive, productive habit to put in the place of the habit you want to change. For example, if when you look at your daily habits and you see yourself watching television for four hours a day and you know that this habit is preventing you from building that project you’ve been thinking about doing for years or creating another source of income, look at what habit you could form that would change that and move you toward what you really want. If eliminating television seems too difficult, take steps to make a gradual shift. Start by cutting it down. Then purposefully add a new activity to replace it, a positive habit where you will see new results. Once you start seeing the improvements, you will want to do even more. Whatever the new habit is that you are working to establish, you must be consistent and not miss a day. Old habits can be hard to break. You must have determination. Keep looking at how your life will improve when you make the change, and it will keep moving you forward. Never try to change more than one or two habits at a time. The only way to change a habit is with repetition. Daily and consistently do the new activity, which replaces the old habit. It may take 30, 60, 90 days or more to establish a new habit, depending on the habit and how deeply ingrained it is in your subconscious mind. Once the new activity has been established as a habit, then you can move onto changing another one. A habit I recently changed was drinking soda. I could probably say that I was addicted to Pepsi, even though most days I had it down to just drinking two cans. The biggest factor in making this change started with a committed decision. I made the decision that I wanted to be healthier and that included changing what I drank. I quit drinking all soda, caffeinated or not. I even quit drinking juice and my beverage of choice is now water. I can honestly say that it didn’t seem that hard to do and that’s because of the decisions I made. I made the decision to be healthier and the decision of what to drink instead of sugary drinks. It’s been seven months since I made the decisions and I am so glad I did. You can make any change in your life that you truly want. You just have to want it bad enough to do what it takes, and bad enough to make the committed decision. Focus on the good results you will see in your life because of the change. Be consistent, persistent and don’t quit. That’s what it takes to succeed. If you skip a day, don’t beat yourself up, just get back on track the next day with more commitment to see it through. The change is possible. Change your thinking, change your habits and you will change your results. We think in pictures. Just like our night dreams are visual images, so is our thinking. When we decide on and create a goal, we must get a clear visual image of what it is and what we are creating. This image is important because it is what you will be focusing on as you move toward your goal. To start, you must be very clear on what it is you want. If you are not specific, you may not get exactly what you want. You must see yourself living with your goal achieved. You are putting your ideas out into the universe and the Law of Attraction is going to help you reach your goal, that’s why it’s so important to be very specific on what it is you want. The universe doesn’t like vagueness. It must have specificity. If your goal is for your dream home, see yourself walking around it, living in it, feeling what it is like to live there. See what it looks like, inside and out. What are the features and colors you want in the home? What is the style? How is it furnished? If your goal is to achieve a certain position or job within a company, what is it? What are you wearing, where is your office if you have one? What do you do at your job every day? Who are the people you talk to or work with? How does it feel to be in this position? What does it look like for you? It is vitally important to mentally visualize yourself there and everything about it in order to create this for yourself. Maybe your goal is to build a business. See yourself as the leader. What does the business do? Who are the customers and how does it benefit them? How many employees do you have? What is the atmosphere or culture you have created for your business? What is the revenue you are creating? Why are you creating this business and what are you doing with the income you’ve generated? You must see in your mind what all this looks like. A clear image of your goal will evolve over time, maybe days, maybe months. The more you think about it, the clearer it will become. The details may also change as the image evolves. Once you have a clear enough picture in your mind of what you want, begin to write it out. More details will come to you as you write because writing causes thinking. And thinking causes feelings and you must emotionally connect with this goal or it’s not going to happen. Feel what it’s like once you have achieved it. Really feel it from the heart. Hand write your specific description, including all the details, with enough clarity so that if someone else were to read it they would understand exactly what your goal is. The important point about writing this out is to always keep it in the present tense, like it’s already happened. Physically handwriting it out is also important because the physical motion of writing gives you a direct connection to your mind, for a more powerful application of your desires. Your completed written description now gives you a detailed visual of your goal, of your true desire. You will want to read this everyday as you move toward your goal. Keep this description in front of you so that it’s easy to focus on it and you can quickly mentally recall the images of your goal. Robert Collier says, “Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blue print, and begin to build.” Visualization is an incredibly powerful tool to use in achieving your goals. Keep it fun and don’t force it. See it in your mind, believe it is yours, and you will attract it into your life. Photo by Dan Gold on Unsplash All goals start as an idea in the mind. Ideas are created in the imagination. Perhaps you have an idea that starts as a fantasy and then turns into a wish, something you might like to do someday. These ideas can remain a fantasy or they can be turned into a goal. When you decide to commit to doing whatever it will take to make it happen and believe you can do it, even though you may not know how, it turns your fantasy into a goal. DECIDE The first important point here is to decide. Nothing happens until you make a decision. When you make a decision, it starts the movement or actions that will move you toward what you want. Without action, your idea remains a wish. COMMIT Once you have decided, it takes commitment. A committed decision is strong. Nothing can interfere with a committed decision. You are emotionally invested in this decision and will do whatever it takes to push through and get it done. Even though I am a coach, I work with a coach because I want to continually improve and grow. As a result of one of my sessions, I was looking at my dreams and the question was, “Why am I committed to this?” This stopped me. I really had to think about that. I know it’s something I really want to do, but I wasn’t sure if I was committed to this, or if it was just a wish. If I was committed to it, I would be taking action to move toward it. Would I be OK if it didn’t happen? How emotionally involved was I with this dream? It took some thought to sort it out. I decided that I am committed to this dream. I am emotionally invested in making it happen. I am taking steps to move toward manifesting this dream and therefore it is a goal. A lot will have to change and happen before it is realized and that’s OK. That’s the fun part, seeing how it will happen. I will grow into the person that I have to be to achieve this dream. I’m excited and look forward to it with eager anticipation. BELIEF The next important factor in making this dream into a goal is belief. I must believe that I can do this. And I do. If I didn’t believe I could do it, all action would stop and it would remain a wish. It’s alright to not know how something can happen. The way will be shown with action and moving toward the goal. One action will lead to the next and so on. The resources, of whatever type are needed, will be there at the right time, when needed. It requires action to start the momentum that will get you to the goal. I’m not ready to share my dream with you. I believe and tell my clients that it’s important to protect your dream. You don’t want to be subject to other people’s negative opinions. They may not understand why it’s your dream and they have their own limiting beliefs. Let the journey and the manifestation show them. There will come a time when you can share what you’re doing. Just be careful what you share and who you share it with. Make sure it’s someone who supports you and won’t try to drag you down to where they are. You will continue to grow as you move toward your dreams and goals and that too will show them. How often do you have a good idea or come across something where you think, I’d like to do that, that would be fun, but I’m just not sure I can? You like the idea but don’t really take the action steps to get there. It remains just a wish unless action steps are taken that will move you toward what you want. You must be in love with this dream. It must create in you a strong emotional feeling, “Yes, I am going to do this, I love this idea.” Only then does the dream turn from a wish into a goal. If you have the idea, it is something that you are capable of doing. Dream big. What wish of yours are you going to turn into a goal? Image by DarkWorkX from Pixabay What is the main ingredient needed to be successful? It is to never quit. The only people who fail are those who quit. You may attempt to accomplish something one, two, three, one hundred or more times without the success you were striving for. Yet as long as you keep going and try again, and again, and again, as many times as it takes, you are successful. Every try at something, even if you didn’t get the results you wanted, has some sort of success tied to it because you’ve successfully learned what doesn’t work. You take the lesson, learn from it and go again. ThomasEdison became famous for saying “I have not failed 10,000 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 10,000 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.” This is what it takes, persistence and consistent action. Embrace the “failures”. Know that you will encounter challenges and times that seem like failures. Welcome them. Know that with each failure you are that much closer to success. Don’t let a so called “failure” prevent you from trying again. Don’t let even the smallest hint of doubt you may hear in your own mind, stop you. Push through! Try again! If you don’t, it hurts your self-esteem. You feel like a failure when you give up on something. When the idea or goal you are working towards has a strong emotional connection for you, it will aid you in persevering. If you don’t feel emotionally invested in it, then you probably have the wrong goal. It takes belief and faith in yourself, in what you are creating, to keep moving, to keep trying especially when it seems difficult. You must remain positive and focused. Don’t let a set back discourage you. When you are working towards a goal, you ARE successful. You aren’t successful when you get there. You are successful because you are on your way there. To get there you will have to learn, grow, work and meet challenges. That’s just part of being successful. The journey may not be easy, yet it can be fun. Love what you are working towards. Anything worth having is worth working for and putting effort into having. That includes the ups and downs, the repeated attempts, the do overs and pushing through until you get it right. Pele, who is widely regarded as one of the greatest football (soccer) players of all time is quoted saying, “Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do.” You have this dream because you have the ability and the capability to accomplish it. If you didn’t, you would not have the desire. As a result of this journey to reach your goal, you will grow into the person you need to be, the person who is the success you seek. Whether you are working towards something that takes practice like Pele, discovery like Edison, or whatever dream or goal that you want, keep at it and never quit! Then you will find the success you seek. Photo by Fab Lentz on Unsplash I know a man who is very choosey about where he parks. In large parking lots, he always parks in a spot away from other vehicles so that no one is next to him. Yet, nearly every time he returns to his vehicle there are cars all around his. This does not please him. What he does not realize is that his thinking, and what he says attracts the very thing he does not want. What he is doing is unknowingly using the Law of Attraction. After parking away from others, he’ll say, “Now watch, when we come back there won’t be any empty spaces around us.” What he really wants is to be parked and have his vehicle remain alone, without anyone parking near him. But he is receiving exactly what he expects. The universe doesn’t understand “not”. It just understands that the spaces around him will be filled. Saying, “I don’t want to park near any cars” won’t give the results he wants either. It would be better to declare, “I love and enjoy the space surrounding my vehicle” and feel it with gratitude. Expectation is a strong belief that something will happen or will be true in the future. It’s a vibration that acts as an attractive force. Even though he didn’t want it to happen, his belief was so strong that it would happen, that it did happen. Being aware of the power of this attractive force of thought, expectation, is the key to realizing a different result. When we adjust our thinking to having an expectation of a good or positive result, the outcome will be desirable. It’s really important to be careful what you are thinking and what you are expecting because the Law of Attraction, being always at work, gives you exactly what you ask for, whether you know it or not. If you are expecting something bad to happen, you probably won’t be disappointed. The opposite is also true. When you are expecting good, that’s what you will receive. When we expect our children to get good grades, they will perform to our expectations. Are you just hoping for a good outcome, but fear it won’t happen? Any doubt or fear always negates. Be clear in your mind about what you are expecting. Having a negative expectation is an expression of fear. It’d be like saying, “I’m afraid that when we return there will be cars parked all around me.” The Bible tells us, “the thing which I greatly fear is come upon me.” This is not a new concept. Replacing fear with a positive belief will alter your result. Expectation and belief are powerful. We must learn to watch our thinking so that we can attract and enjoy what we truly desire. Create a new habit of catching yourself before you think or say a negative statement and ask yourself, “what am I expecting to happen?”. To attract the good you desire you must always expect that it will happen. Photo by John Matychuk on Unsplash Creating your best life and achieving your goals requires a change in thinking and a change in habits. The following three ideas are simple things you can bring into your life right away that will have a great impact on improving your life. Gratitude Journal In order to receive more in our lives, we must be grateful for what we already have. No matter how much you have, or how little you think you have, be truly grateful for it. When you are grateful it opens your thinking to receive. It must be a genuine gratitude for even the simplest things in your life; the warm sun on your face, the smile of a child, your feet that take you where you need to go. To keep gratitude on your mind, have a gratitude journal. Everyday write down at least ten things that you’re grateful for. It can be something you already have or something you are expecting to come into your life. It can be big or small. Write freely and let the gratitude your feeling flow onto the paper. If you’re new at this or don’t know how to start, you can start simply. “I’m grateful for my hand to write this with.” “I’m grateful for my eyes to see with.” Or what’s obvious, “I’m grateful for my family”, “I’m grateful for my home”, “for the bed to sleep in”. The more you do it, the easier it gets and the more you will find to be grateful for. Make a habit of doing this every day, it is a transformational habit. Using Affirmations Affirmations are positive statements, that when used repeatedly, will improve the mindset and thinking of the person using them. It is a way of reprograming your habitual way of thinking. To be effective, an affirmation should always be in the present tense and stated as though it’s already true. It must not contain any negative words. For example, “not” or “won’t”, or even a word with a negative meaning like debt, should not be included in an affirmation. When you have created your affirmation, repeat it throughout the day and do it with feeling. This is really important. Make this affirmation part of you. Claim it. Believe it. Know that it’s true. You must not have any doubt that this is your reality. When you add gratitude to your affirmation, it makes it even more powerful. A great example is, “I am so happy and grateful now that money easily and abundantly comes into my life.” Or, “I am so happy and grateful now that I am enjoying a fulfilling relationship with someone who truly respects and loves me.” There is no limit to the affirmations you can create. Using affirmations is a simple and impactful tool that you can use to help you get the results you’re seeking in your life. That’s why I’ve created a handout for you, so that you can easily start using them today. This handout also gives you tips on creating your own and how to make affirmations effective. Click hereto have the “Affirmations Handout” emailed directly to you. Vision Board We think in pictures and because we do, creating a vision board or a dream board, is a great way to keep pictures of what you want to attract into your life in front of your thought. These can be pictures illustrating your goal or they can be about your affirmations. If your goal is to live in a house on the coast, find a picture of the type of coastal home you would love to live in. Maybe it depicts the home by the water or interior photos looking out so that you can see it’s clearly a coastal home. If your goal is to travel the world, have photos of places you want to visit on the board. Maybe you want to receive an award for something. Use a picture of the award or prize and impose it on a photo of you. Words are OK too as they will visually stand out but be clear about what they mean to you. Use photos as description of those words. Get creative. You can find pictures in magazines or online. Build a board that completely and clearly represents what you want and what you love. You can use a poster board, a foam board or a scrapbook. It can evolve and change as you do and as you reach your goals. Put it where you will see it every day and where you can touch it every day. You want this to be real for you, a concrete representation of your dreams. All three of these ideas are powerful tools that will help you reach your goals or attract to you what you want in your life. You can implement one of them or all of them. If you want to use all of them, do one at a time. You want to create a new habit of these and do so in a way that you will stick with it. Too many changes at once will tend to overwhelm and not be lasting. Ease into these with a committed decision, don’t quit and you will see wonderful improvements in your life. I would love to hear how you used these ideas in your life and their impact on you. Email me or come back and comment below and share your success with creating a habit out of any of these suggestions. Photo by Jake Hills on Unsplash Have you ever felt stuck? Stuck in a certain situation, or stuck at your place in life? Are you unhappy where you are but just don’t know how to improve things so that you can be happy and live a better life? The desire for more or for better than you are currently experiencing is natural. Spirit, which is in each one of us, is always seeking greater expansion. We were not put on this earth to struggle, to live a non-fulfilling life of drudgery. You don’t need to feel guilty because you want more or aren’t happy where you are. Recognize that it is your spirit that is seeking more for you. Just because you want something other than what you have, doesn’t mean you’re not grateful for what you have. You can be grateful and still want something else. If fact, when we’re not grateful for what we already have, then we aren’t ready to receive more. To move forward and find the freedom you desire and deserve, ask yourself, “What is holding me back?” When understanding how our thinking controls our life, one can realize it usually comes down to our own limiting beliefs. These beliefs may not even have originated within you. Well-meaning parents often pass down limiting beliefs they’ve inherited. Parents raised during the depression are more apt to have a scarcity mindset. They think you have to get a good job and work hard to make money and are often conservative. Culture, economic conditions, adversity and world events all play a large role in forming limiting beliefs, and they are passed down because these beliefs have been bought into. These parents were doing the best they knew how with the awareness that they had. Now you know better. You don’t have to accept these beliefs, this habitual way of thinking. You can create a better life for yourself. Start by allowing yourself to dream. Think about what it is you really want. What do you dream about in your heart of hearts? What gets you excited? What do you love to do? Find your passions in your dreams. Then visualize yourself in what you dream. See yourself there. Write, think and say what your dream is in the present tense, like it’s already happened. Repeat it over and over. This is the basis to changing habits, to changing thinking and attracting what you want into your life. That’s how you make your dream a reality. Whatever challenges are presented, are opportunities for growth. The lessons learned after going through or overcoming a challenge allow one to become bigger than they were. When coming out on the other side of that lesson, you’re not the same, you’ve grown in some way and have more clarity, a better sense of direction as you discover what you do or don’t want. Learning what you don’t want, helps to bring clarity about what you do want. Always look for the lesson in a challenge. There is always something good to come from it. You may have to dig just a little deeper to find it. A challenge is just a learning experience where you will come out on the other side, a better person. Never let your challenges take away your dreams. The vision of what can be will give you the strength to carry on through the difficulties. Know that if you can dream it, you can do it. Your freedom is just on the other side of breaking through whatever challenge or problem you may be encountering in your life. The freedom and life you seek is waiting for you. Change your mind, change your thinking and take action to move forward in your life and you will find the freedom that you truly desire and that you totally deserve. Photo by Mario Azzi on Unsplash When I was in 3rd grade I sat by the window for part of the year. I loved sitting by the window, staring out into the playground, thinking about what I would do come recess, dreaming some other dreams. The teacher, who happened to be one of my favorites, wrote on my report card that I daydreamed out the window. It wasn’t long before she moved me to the other side of the room. It felt so dark there. Daydreaming is really being creative. This is where we create our fantasies and fantasy is the first stage in creation. Everything was once just an idea in someone’s imagination, from the simplest table to the most complex computer. It all starts in the imagination. Imagination is a powerful mental tool available to all of us. Some of us may have more developed imaginations than others, but we all have one. We are naturally creative beings. We can create the life we want; we can create objects or create ideas. With our thinking minds, we can literally create anything. Using our imagination, our creative mind, we can see our self doing, being or having whatever we can dream. “If you can dream it, you can do it.” We don’t get ideas to do something that we aren’t able to do. When you have an idea that you love, ask yourself, “Am I willing?” and “Am I able?” to do this. Everyone is able to do something. There are great examples of people who appear handicapped that show the world they have no limitations. People may think they are not able when really it is that they are not willing. You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to make that dream a reality. That may mean learning a new skill, finding financing, or getting help. Until you can answer yes to both these questions, your dream will just stay a fantasy and will not be realized in your life and in your world. We never want to stop someone from using their imagination or from being creative. So many gadgets these days, already inhibit the use of imagination. It is a precious resource that should be developed and encouraged to use. Your imagination is the key to your achieving great things in your life. Don’t ever stop dreaming or daydreaming. Often, we’ve been so wrapped up in our busy lives that our dreams are put on the back burner and we quit dreaming. Just imagine what your life could look like if you went back to daydreaming. What is YOUR dream? When working towards a goal, focus can help you accomplish the result you desire. I frequently tell clients to focus on what they truly want, to get a clear image of the result they desire and to focus on it, laying aside all distractions. This focus, though, requires an open mind. Having focus and being open minded may seem contradictory, but they’re not. An open mind will enhance your focus, because you will be receptive to ideas that will help you. You don’t want to be so focused on something that you exclude ideas that will move you forward. You don’t want to block these ideas from coming to you. Eliminating distractions and shutting off negativity is essential to maintaining your focus. When you do this, you are not allowing yourself to be deterred. Shutting off the negativity also means closing off your own negative self-talk. Limiting beliefs will try to get in the way of progress, and you must be aware of this or it too will stop you from moving forward. You must keep your mind focused on the goal, the result you truly desire. Your goal should be so strong that you don’t let anything get in the way of accomplishing it. The Law of Attraction is always working, and it attracts to you whatever you are focused on. When you are focused and have an open mind, you will receive ideas that will help you on your way to your goal. Resources will show up when you need them. Things will come together that you hadn’t thought of. You weren’t sure how it was going to happen but it’s working out. This happens with focus and an open mind. When your mind is closed off, you aren’t in a receptive mode. You won’t receive the ideas that will help you, the resources won’t be there, or you won’t see them. When you are open to receiving, you are not closed off from the good that is on its way to you. Remain focused but with an open mind, so that you never miss the answer or the idea that is waiting to be received, which just might be the key to your success. 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