How well you do anything is directly related to your self-image. You will always perform as well as you believe you are capable of performing. Another way of saying this is, you can never outperform your self-image. If you want to do better, you must first change your concept of yourself.
Whenever you are doing well and feeling good about yourself, you are exhibiting a positive self-image. The reverse is also true. Whenever you feel inferior, or do poorly, you are demonstrating your negative beliefs about yourself. Whatever is believed on the inside, is expressed on the outside and shows in your outer world.
The negative beliefs you have about yourself are not based on fact. They are self-limiting beliefs and doubts based on suggestions that you have accepted as true. They are lies. They are false information. When you begin to understand that these beliefs are limiting you, you can reject them and they will lose their power over you. To realize your true, unlimited potential, you must deliberately change your self-image.
Recognize that you are important, you are valued, and you have a contribution to make. The only place to correct the misconceptions you have of yourself are in your thinking. You don’t have to convince anyone other than you. Create a new dialogue about your image to negate the limiting beliefs running around in your mind. For example, “I am kind, I am intelligent, and I am loveable. I am able to do anything. I love myself and I deserve and accept love in my life.”
Mirror work is a great tool to change your self-image. Stand in front of the mirror and compliment yourself. Tell you that you love you. Put feeling into it. You may find it awkward at first but continue. It will eventually become more comfortable. Say things like, “I love my eyes because they allow me to see the beauty of nature. I love my feet because they take me where I want to go.” Come up with your own, new ones each day. Do this for a few minutes every day, looking at yourself in the mirror. Look yourself in the eye. Feel the love. Keep at it, it will get easier.
Another great tool is a Win Journal. Keep track of the good things you do, for yourself, your accomplishments, and things you’ve done for others. We tend to undervalue what we do. If I asked you, “name one thing you’ve accomplished this week”, how quickly can you respond with something? I’ve been asked that, and I’ve had to think about it, and then after a few minutes I’ll remember something great. A Win Journal keeps you aware of the good that you do. It helps build confidence by keeping your thought tuned into the good acts, reminding yourself, “Oh yes, I did that well, and I did this, etc.” A Win Journal helps you to recognize your value and contribution.
Where do our limiting beliefs come from? Most of them we learned growing up. Our parents taught them to us. They were doing the best they knew how, based on their own awareness and their own limiting beliefs. When we understand they weren’t purposefully hurting us, and most likely thought they were protecting or educating us, it helps to let that belief go. Tell yourself, “It was their belief, not mine, and I refuse to accept it in my life any longer!” Make this your decision. Then you can enjoy a new sense of freedom and control.
Improving your self-image can transform your world. You will have the confidence and belief in yourself to reach for your dreams, set lofty goals, and feel the freedom of living without worrying about other people’s opinions of you or anything you do. Believe in yourself. If you find that difficult, hang on to someone else’s belief in you. Find a mentor or friend who will support you and lift you up. I believe in you. Do the exercises and create the new self-image you want to have of yourself. It’s who you’re meant to be.
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