Are you a quitter? What is the first thing that comes to your mind when I ask that? Do you think I’m asking you if you don’t follow through and finish what you start? Being a quitter isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It depends on how the word is used or the perspective being viewed.
I’ve said many times, the only people that fail are the ones that quit. This is referring to working towards a goal and it’s by law, universal law, that you will reach your goal if you don’t quit. As long as you persist and continually take action to move toward your goal, you will get there. Not following through with a goal, not finishing what you start, is quitting. If you notice that often you seem to stop before you’re done, that you seem to give up before completion, you might want to consider what is causing that behavior. (Check out the link at the end of this article.) Don’t be this kind of quitter.
There is a positive side to quitting. If you were to quit quitting, as in the previously mentioned behavior, that would be a very positive decision. We all have habitual thinking and habits that if we quit them, it would make a huge difference in our life. Imagine how different your life could be if you quit just one habit from the following list:
Let’s focus on the positivity associated with quitting any of the habits listed. The place to handle these habits is in the mind. What really needs to happen is to replace any of these negative habits with a positive habit. Removing a habit creates a void, which will always be filled with something, be it your choice or not. You want to select the habit you want in its place. Find the opposite behavior and create that as the habit to put in its place.
First, it starts with awareness. You can’t change anything if you’re not aware you’re doing it. If you will really examine your thinking and actions, I’ll bet you will discover that you have some of the above listed habits. Can you see that by changing even just one of these habits, could have such a positive impact on your life?
Let’s look at “quit negative self-talk.” Aside from the fact that negative self-talk is so detrimental to your self-image, become aware of every time you say something bad about yourself. Saying it in your head is equally as bad as saying it out loud. Examples are “I’m not smart enough”, “I’m not pretty enough”, “I can’t do that”, “I’m too fat”, “I’m too skinny”, “I don’t deserve something so good”, “I’m not as good as her”, “why would they want to know me?”, “ I’m not…I can’t…I don’t”, you get the idea. Learn to catch yourself before you say it or think it.
Then replace it with the opposite. “I am smart enough, I can do it, I am comfortable in my skin, I’m the perfect size, I deserve it, I am good enough, I have much to offer, I am, I can, I do.” When you impress upon your mind the positive statements with feeling, you will notice a shift in your thinking. Confidence will improve. Opportunities to exercise the positive statements will show up and you will be altering your behavior and your results.
What could your life look like if you changed your self talk? What would it FEEL like to have confidence and self-assurance, a positive self-image? Love yourself. No one is perfect, that’s a perception. Love yourself the way God created you, a perfect spiritual being.
Take the same approach for other habits you want to quit. First be aware. Catch yourself doing the habit you don’t want. Select the opposite behavior to put in its place and create that habit. Feel what it’s like when you have a new habit in its place. Add to this positive affirmations to repeat everyday. They will enforce the new habit, the new thinking. Make a committed decision that you will make this shift to improve your habits. When you have established it as a new habit, you have just quit one behavior on the list.
Words are powerful. Because the word quit commonly has a negative meaning, change it. Be a shifter, rather than a quitter. Shift your habitual thinking. Shift your habits. Shift your life. Replace negativity with positivity. Replace unproductive habits with productive habits.
Then when someone asks if you’re a quitter, you can proudly and confidently say, “I am a shifter. I have quit the negative habits and shifted my life, one habit at a time.”
If you would like to learn more about shifting habits, listen to Bob Proctor’s seminar, Paradigm Shift. Register for free from this link, https://bit.ly/33IrbG8, and enjoy the recording of his live weekend seminar.
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